Share: avoid contact when you don’t look your best?

It’s been a couple of months now and I realized that the frequency of going au natural when I head out of my home has been increasing. Okay, that’s a bit of a tease really because what I meant to say is that I haven’t been wanting to look my best. So it’s sans makeup with my nerdy glasses most of the time. Well, that’s really not much of a look and so yeah, I’m slightly conscious about bumping into people I know. Not exceedingly so but if I can avoid them, I most probably would although I’ll say my decision to avoid or to establish contact really depends. And what exactly am I depending on?

Call it vanity, insecurity or whatever but my decision to deliberately avoid the person actually depends on how the other person looks. I’m more conscious about avoiding if the other person is all dressed up but I may actually go up to one who is in a casual looking state like me. The reason is simple enough: a well dressed person makes me more self-conscious while someone who is not makes more comfortable in my own skin. HEH.

I guess I could avoid all the awkwardness by dolling up a little but there are just times when I want to be myself even without a dust of powder or having to fill in the brows. Anyway I don’t think I’m alone in this as many of you probably go au natural all the time. So are you very comfortable to be seen in your own skin? Or do you have a wee bit sense of awkwardness at times meeting some people when you’re not looking your best?

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  1. EcoBeauty says:

    Haha! I’m like that, too. It actually depends on the person I’ll meet. If he/she is someone I’m very close to, I wouldn’t mind. But I usually am paranoid of meeting people I haven’t seen for ages, especially so if during the last time they saw me, I was looking my best. Currently, due to my busy schedule, it’s been getting harder and harder to doll up. Believe it or not, sometimes I even come to the office wearing really lose old tshirt, a pair of shorts and rubber slippers, like I’m going to NTUC to buy groceries. No concealer or anything… I’m fine with my office mates seeing me like that since they’re probably used to it but old friends I haven’t met in a while–err…. I’ll prefer not to.

  2. Alexandra says:

    I am au natural 95% of the time and in most of the time, I am comfortable going almost everywhere with just T-shirt, skirt and slippers. Even though I am comfortable at just being me, I do feel awkward if I were to meet my ex-colleagues because I am from a ‘fashion’ background. They would look at you as if you have been dragged out from a lake or something! Anyways….That being said, I do make an effort to dress my self up if going to appropriate places or to church. Not that I am conscious because of church members, but wanna look good in God’s house.

  3. sesame says:

    Yup, I won’t mind if it’s a close friend but would be uncomfortable with pple I don’t know well. And oh, I’m dressed like I’m going to the market too – shorts and tees…no rubber slippers though. Haha.

  4. sesame says:

    I do dress up when I’ve to go somewhere but still kinda dress down especially now that I wear jeans more often. Haha…

    And I know what you mean about looking good in God’s house…well, it’s showing respect for the Lord too. ?

  5. Jyoan says:

    I actually go to work everyday in my own skin, so I consider myself very comfortable with the natural state.

    But when I do look a bit sick or tired, I avoid bumping into too many people.

  6. sesame says:

    Oh that’s great. It’s nice not having to wear makeup on a daily basis.

  7. Soos says:

    Like Alexandra, I put on a full face of makeup, dress appropriately and do my hair (though all this rain and humidity make the latter more difficult) for work and events. I even wear makeup to the mall because I try to consolidate my errands – go less frequently but do more.

    However, when it’s my day off, and I’m just going for my usual walk around the neighborhood in the afternoon or evening, all I’m wearing is sunscreen/moisturizer and lip balm and sunglasses. I don’t care who I run into, and I often do see people I know. And if I need to run to the supermarket like that, I do and have.

  8. jela says:

    even going to the market sometimes is a pain cause i can not go out without putting on what i call ” my essentials” e.g. eyebrows, bb cream , finishing powder and a lip tint. Funny yesterday, i bumped my head and bled , had to rush myself to the hospital with a pale face, nothing on though in the back of my mind i thought about my appearance but my fear of losing much blood made me skipped that. ?

  9. sesame says:

    It’s good to let our faces rest and have a day off too. Sunglasses are good but I don’t wear them unless I use contact lenses.

  10. sesame says:

    I trust everything is good with you now…I suppose when it’s an emergency, then whatever is happening takes priority and how we look is no longer important.

  11. Carrie says:

    Well, I have always been self-conscious around people ever since I was little because of my darker skin colour in Asian countries (darn you stereotypes!!) Plus I don’t have the perfect skin either. But recently I find I am less likely to bother what others think of me (or should I say I’d rather not know?! :P). I guess to me it is more important to be myself rather than something I am not. From time to time I’d put on light make up at work yet most of the time just none at all LOL!! It depends on my mood really, and how scary my dark circles are XD

  12. Mei says:

    I am au natural almost 100% of the time, including weddings, chinese new year, job interviews etc. The only few occasions when I wasn’t, was at my own wedding, taking a professional photo etc.

    I focus on using good quality skincare to brighten my skin and keep it in good condition. Adopting a proper dress code and well cut hair also helps to maintain an acceptable image without make-up.

    I have grown to appreciate simplicity and feel confident even without make-up. I rather lash on quality skincre than make-up!

  13. Miss Vinny says:

    Sometimes I dress really casually ‘cos ugh, the heat! Plus it takes so much time to do up the hair properly.

    Oh btw, if anyone wanted to buy just 1 to 2 items from Skinactives, mssbuffalot has opened up a spree.

  14. Miss Vinny says:

    Sorry, it’s msbeautybuff.

  15. Miss Vinny says:

    Err and no, I haven’t really run into too many of my former classmates or relatives so it’s okay. ?

  16. sesame says:

    I know what you mean…it’s better to be yourself rather than trying to be someone in order to please others…most important is you’re comfortable with who you are.

  17. sesame says:

    How wonderful…you must have very good skin. I’ve come across some women who dresses very well but do not wear makeup no matter the occasion. Very interesting.

  18. sesame says:

    Ya the heat can be unbearable. My fave is tees and shorts. Heheh. Speaking of Skinactives, their ELS is quite good. Have been using it every night now.

  19. Mimi says:

    I recently came across your blog and I must say that I already love it! Keep up the good work!

    To be honest, I go out in public au natural quite often, but only if I am not planning to meet other people directly, for example when I go on errands or grocery shopping. Well, at school there are some make up free days too as I sometimes don’t feel like tarting myself up#k8SjZc9Dxk#k8SjZc9Dxk But most of the times I put make up on, not only because I feel better with it, but it just became something like a “ritual”, something that simply belongs to my morning routine, even if I don’t use a lot of products.

  20. sesame says:

    It can become a habit! Haha…I can understand where you’re coming from on that.

    And thank you for visiting my blog and giving me your comments. Come back often. ?

  21. Miss Vinny says:

    Oh, the ELS is good huh? ? Guess they have a lot of popular items then.

    Hmmm… and what a pity, I don’t think anyone is joining the spree. Then again, the shipping is so cheap, might as well buy direct.

  22. sesame says:

    Yeah, it’s cheap enough to order direct and the best part is they use PayPal. I hate online stores that do not accept PayPal. Can’t trust credit card info online now…

  23. Siew Ying says:

    I hardly put on makeup except say, I need to, aka job interviews. However, I never liked the combi of wearing slippers, t-shirts and shorts. I like presentable dressing (smart casual office wear) and I go almost everywhere in dresses and open-toed slingbacks. I am trying to go more casual as people have been saying I look like I’m going to work all the time :X

  24. Sesame says:

    Haha…I dislike slippers now but t-shirts and shorts are the to-go for me. It’s been my favorite attire for years.

  25. espenine says:

    U must have rather flawless skin!

  26. espenine says:

    I would definitely want to go makeup free if only I don’t have acne issues (SIGH). I put on some light foundation to cover the redness & hyper pigmentation caused by acne if I am going out. Other than that, I don’t bother with any other forms of makeup.

  27. Sesame says:

    I know what you mean…when I had acne, I did more concealing. Did you find out why you’re having acne issues?

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