Share: are you concern about your weight?

These days, my colleagues and I are forever discussing about our weight. You see, I have a colleague who is rather slim, and like me, she wanted to put on weight. Let’s just say we were both frustrated by the comments we were getting regarding our “smaller frame”.

So she embarked on a mission to fatten herself by taking loads of Ribena and glucose over the past few months and put on weight quite quickly. I, on the other hand, did not change my diet but because I was much blessed, I put on 4kg in a couple of months. Just the other day, she crept up behind me and told me, “Hey, I think your hips are growing!” I know it may sound rude but because I knew she didn’t have any malicious intent, it didn’t bother me and we laughed about it. But we quickly reminded each other that we should stop putting on weight because the fats are being deposited at the wrong areas! My tummy is flat no more!

Weight seems to be a perennial problem for most people. Either they’re looking to shed some or they’re looking to gain some. Is there even such a thing as an optimal weight? I know there are many weight calculators that does that like one that I tried told me – “based on the information you provided, your desirable body weight without clothes should fall between 43 kg and 47 kg”. And I am over the optimal range now! I need to maintain at about 45kg I guess but does that mean that those problem areas will automatically be trimmer with a weight loss?

Anyway, just for fun, I’ve embedded an Ideal Weight Calaulator widget here for you to calculate your weight. If you’re a lady using this, you should base on the lower figure to gauge. Alternatively, just google for optimal weight calculator and you should be able to find other related resources.

Ideal Weight Calculator (kg)
Height (in meters):

So are you concern about your weight? Do you want to be thinner or do you want to be fatter? And are there specific areas you want trimmer?


  1. EcoBeauty says:

    I want to be fatter!!!!

    I’ve been underweight my entire life and the only time I gained weight (still underweight but I think that’s my ideal weight–98 lbs) was when I was a bum. HAHA. Whenever I start doing anything productive in my life, I lose weight rapidly. Now, at 5’3 I’m only 89-90 lbs because I’m on a special detox diet. But I plan to gain weight after this. My nutritionist said that the reason why it’s hard for me to gain weight could probably be due to my body not absorbing certain nutrients properly, thus the detox.

    Oh when I was chubbier, my hubby commented on my thighs getting “healthier”. -_- I hate it how we can’t choose where to gain weight.
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  2. florence says:

    whether is slim or fat…as long as the person is healthy is good enough.For women over 30 yrs, try not to be too slim, as it will look older, women with a bit of flesh do looks more healthy,but that’s also depends on how each person see.I always weight myself everyday,as sudden weight drop is a sign of unhealthy health.I have no problem in weight gain, except my prgnency time.I always maintain my weight at 45.6 to 46 kg range.Every morning I run, is not because of the weight, is to maintain a healthy heart!

  3. sesame says:

    I agree…some flesh is better but I wish there is better distribution of the flesh. Seems that when one hit a certain age, all the fats get accumulated on the waist, tummy and butt!

  4. sesame says:

    That’s like 40kg? Woah…and you’re taller than me! Some women gain weight after childbirth though…maybe that’s something to work towards. ?

  5. Liz says:

    Yes! My weight seems to remain the same even though I eat lots of junk food. I rarely workout and those fats are going to the wrong places! ?

  6. Chris says:

    I am trying to lose a bit of weight, but my main dilemma is toning my body. I can easily lose weight, but keeping it off and building muscle are the hard parts.
    Chris last post is: Harry Potter Inspired EOTD

  7. sesame says:

    At least it’s good you’re not gaining weight. Yeah…I think the problem with ladies tend to be accumulating fats at the wrong areas…you’re definitely not alone.

  8. sesame says:

    Ah…yes…my body is not tone. Especially my arms and my butt! To tone, we probably need to do some exercises – which I don’t.

  9. Swati says:

    yeah…me too,…I was overweight and by sheer chance I lost 8 kgs this year and now everyday I just keep on checking my weight…I am just so obsessed with it and I donno how to stop!!!
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  10. Stephanie/Yukaeshi says:

    I’ve always been fluctuating between 43-45kg ever since I was 15 years old, and due to my high metabolism it’s been hard for me to gain weight even though I might eat a lot ?

    It’s not necessarily a blessing or a bane IMO, and I’m not obsessed with my weight, because it’s already been hard to find clothes that actually fit me haha! My ideal weight range is the same as yours, and I’m now 45kg (Compared to 43kg a few months back), and I notice that some of my dresses fit me better (Even though I do have a slight tummy now…) hmmm.
    Stephanie/Yukaeshi last post is: The Story Of My Thomas Sabo Charm Bracelet

  11. sesame says:

    Haha…really? Sounds like my hubby who checks his weight every morning. But losing 8kg is a lot!

  12. sesame says:

    Actually I find weight issues rather irritating. When you’re fatter, your clothes can’t fit and you’ve got to get new clothes. And then when you start losing weight, the new clothes aren’t fitting anymore.

  13. hazel says:

    I am extremely concern about my weight. I always made sure I didn’t tip the scale since I was a kid. However, my daughter presented me with a gift after I gave birth to her. She left behind a couple of kg that I am still hoping to shed. I have an extremely sweet tooth and I know this is one of the reasons that I am not losing the extra pounds.
    Along with exercise, I am also cutting down on simple sugars in my diet. Two significant changes that I have made are:
    1) no sugar in tea or coffee
    2) no soft drinks unless I have no choice
    hazel last post is: LOTD: Peach Tart(e)

  14. sesame says:

    Aiyoh Hazel…you look very slim to me! Haha…but that’s like the pot calling the kettle black because pple will say the same thing to me and yet, we all have our problem spots. But I concur with you about childbirth…we’re left with “gifts” we don’t really want. The best part is they also shrink some of your assets…at least for me!

    Actually when I was writing this, I remembered some of the toning exercises you wrote about but I never got down to doing them. I have stopped exercising completely!

  15. N. says:

    I’m overweight but I started exercising everyday. And already shed 2kg. I can do it! Haha. My problem areas is stomach and thighs.
    N. last post is: Etsy: Erzulie Cosmetics

  16. sesame says:

    Same problem areas!

  17. Issa says:

    yes, i wanna lose some weight! my problem areas are tummy, waist and arms… i started exercising but only for about 30 minutes because i gotta go to work. i wish I have more time to exercise “sigh”….

  18. sesame says:

    At least you’re exercising…that’s good. Keep going. I’ve stopped completely though. ?

  19. Stephanie/Yukaeshi says:

    Exactly : My jeans at 45kg is too tight compared to when I am 43kg, which is really irritating.
    Stephanie/Yukaeshi last post is: The Story Of My Thomas Sabo Charm Bracelet

  20. Ann says:

    That used to be my concern all these years, but recently after going on a crash diet probably it seems I have just ruined everything. I am going thru what I have never experienced…….messed up my periods and now I am going to the GP a lot…….so it’s always better to stick to balanced diet ofcourse and cut down slowly.

  21. sesame says:

    Oh dear…I hope all is well. Yes, it’s best to moderate…don’t go on a sudden diet…our body may not be able to handle.

  22. hazel says:

    i have a paunch… hehehe… pot belly…
    and yes, i’ve shrunk at places and expanded around others… It has been two years, and the ‘gift’ is still hanging around. My aim right now is to prevent further weight gain and keep my body tone and hopefully reduce my paunch.

    Try looking for an exercise partner? Coz my friend and I motivate each other to exercise and it is fun having an exercise partner.
    hazel last post is: LOTD: Peach Tart(e)

  23. pf1123 says:

    I am hardly concerned abt my weight anymore. I am overweight. I try to work out but for health reasons. I’ll like to be slimmer but I don’t reduce weight even when I exercise. I grow muscles. Eek! I am already eating same amount or less than my smaller size friends. And to eat less would be depressing. So I decided to accept myself….hahaha…

  24. Shelly says:

    weight, just like age, are mere numbers haha. you can be skinny and unhealthy and vice versa, so it’s always important to just be healthy! personally i wish i have the time to exercise (i know heard it all before that it’s just an excuse but juggling 7 modules is really a killer!) i’m 5ft and tipped the scales at 46kg and i wish
    i can shed a few kilos and tone up haha.

    oh yeah random question, are essential oils ok to use in replacement of proper perfumes? can it be applied ‘neat’ or must there be other oils mixed? i feel like just bringing around a bottle of lavender oil to calm my soul everywhere i go lol. ?

  25. sesame says:

    Yes you can use the lavender oil neat if you have no sensitivity to it.

    Your weight and height sounds moderate to me. I’m about that size. I only want the fats to be better distributed. LOL.

  26. sesame says:

    Well…I always remember that DIET is to die with a T…haha. Good to enjoy your food; no point suppressing just to look good as long as you don’t overeat.

  27. sesame says:

    The thing is, I’m super unmotivated when it comes to exercising. The only thing I’ll do is housework…that counts no? Hee… but I must get back to the rebounder soon.

  28. Amanda says:

    I’m also the slim type. My arms and hands are too skinny that they sometimes look like bony hands of an old woman (without those dreadful wrinkles). But interestingly, I don’t have a flat tummy. Most people would say I am slim. But being thin is not a blessing for me. I am always looking for healthy ways to make my arms and hands more meaty.
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  29. sesame says:

    I know what you mean…a bit of fats will be good for some of us. I wish some of my fats are distributed to my upper body. ?

  30. fwy says:

    After all these years I have learned to be contented with my weight, height, looks etc. Nowadays, if people make comments about my weight, I just shrugged it off. Like you I am born of a petite frame and I know a lot of women are actually envious of petite ladies like us.

  31. sesame says:

    Haha…I don’t know if they’re envious but being petite, we typically look younger than we are. ?

  32. Amelie de Vera says:

    Hi Sesame. I would like to ask how you gain those 4kg in a couple of months? I am underweight. I literally stop gaining weight when I was 12! At 24 I weigh 39 kg! Shocking? Yeah, I know.

    I don’t have any eating disorder though. I’m just one of those people who eat in order to survive. Would appreciate it if someone could give me some tips on how to gain weight the healthy way. Thanks.

  33. sesame says:

    I’ve been blessed by the Lord and because I was a lot happier, I gained weight quite naturally. I did indulge in some snacks on and off but that’s probably about it. I didn’t binge on food though.

  34. Soos says:

    While I am healthy, I’m working to be healthier.
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  35. sesame says:

    That’s great! ?

  36. Heather says:

    I used to be about a hundred pounds overweight, now I’m at a good weight and I work out consistently. I can’t really relate to being underweight, but I do have an eating disorder that I have to deal with.

  37. william merola says:

    Begin with drinking 8 to Ten large waters a day , combined with meal intake& you should begin to notice a difference.

  38. Lamisa A says:

    Extremely well written informative article. I think it will help me a lot to clear my goals. Thank you for sharing so many nice tips.
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